Sacred Parenting

A Mother's Perspective | From Conception to 19 Years of Existence


I did it and I did a great job! ✨🙏🏽✨


September 22, 2020 is the day I am flooded with emotions as a mother mostly proud, tears of joy and relief that I did it and I did it very well, along with excitement for what the future holds. He is ready for the world! I have no fears or reservations about leaving him in another state to BECOME who he is destined to be, he understands nothing is impossible, he can do whatever he sets his mind too, he is a part of this worldly system, but he is not of that system. He is greater than that system, he is a creator nothing more nothing less.


I share this life experience to remind you that fear is the gateway to your magnificence shining brighter than you could have ever imagined. When we live our lives allowing our internal GPS to lead us we enter the victorious space we are all designed to experience everyday of our lives.

At Conception:

Regarding my first born: To feel my body transforming to reshape itself, and to feel the transfer of energy required to nurture a magnificent seed. I was terrified in my ability to be a woman who could accept the charge to create a sacred space for my baby to grow up and develop into a well-rounded and independent thinker. Intuitively we were on the same wavelength, our baby was purposed, therefore he needs to receive a name worthy of his purpose. — A gracious gift from God who will be Victorious in his Lane.



At Birth:

Regarding my first born: Looking back I think this was my first time experiencing meditation unknowingly. I labored at home in my own way simply listening to my body. I was committed to having a natural birth so that was no big deal to me. When I had arrived to the hospital I had changed my mind and said I’ll take an epidural now. The nurse said, I’m sorry we have no time for that, about 20 minutes later I had a whole baby and soon after I was up and walking, feeling great. Again listening to my body rather than others who encouraged me to sit myself down somewhere.

My Paternal Foundation

We all know babies come to us with no instructions, even though this is the most important assignment we will ever have. So I created my parenting style from my life experience to date and of course it evolved as I educated myself, in addition to being lead by my intuition. I see my intuition as the God in me, a deep knowing I can trust.

The Absorbent Mind | Zero to 5 years old

Looking back I would say we created a cocoon of pure living to ensure they had a solid and secure foundation in which to develop. We innately knew we had to live a life of purity for that to be successful because what we see, what we hear and what we are exposed to become what we know to be truth and a way of life. There are many ways to live, but when they left our cocoon they would clearly see there are many different lifestyles, and when they grow up and it’s time for them to choose they can do so according to what is in their best interest to thrive. Mr. Lane and I were on the same wavelength and collectively created our cocoon with the following foundations:

  • We spoke no profanity

  • We didn’t listen to music with profanity

  • We stopped drinking alcoholic beverages

  • We were very particular about what we watched

  • We limited violent imagery

  • We encouraged independence

  • We spoke to them as adults with the expectation they could rise up to our level

  • We allowed them to experience failure

  • We encouraged and praised

  • We whooped their butt to set and/or enforce boundaries

  • Introduced them to sports (maybe a little to early)

  • We exposed them to any and everything to ensure they would be adaptable people. They would need to experience it so have a solid understanding if it was for them or not (lots of times forced them to participate and/or experience so they knew and could make an educated choice)

I used the technique of forward thinking to determine what I felt they needed when they were to leave the cocoon we created and go out on their own to explore the world as global citizens. One of the important skills they would need is to stand up for themselves as no one else can do it better than them, self advocacy.

Exploration Time | 6-10 years

These years of life we mostly focused on exposure. I innately knew they needed to be comfortable in any environment and adaptable, in hopes that when life presents itself they could be agile and adapt accordingly. We tested them by putting them in situations to see how they would advocate for themselves. Gave them the freedom to explore and sometimes hurt themselves so they could learn in a controlled environment. We worked hard to provide a balanced sheltered life that we deemed to be essential to their ultimate success. Mr. Lane and I were on the same wavelength and collectively parented with the following as foundations for this phase:

  • We continued to expose them to any and everything to ensure they would be well-rounded and adaptable people. (lots of times forced them to participate and/or experience so that they could tell me from an educated perspective)

  • Various sports and camps

  • Introduction to traveling

  • Kept them in nature

  • When they expressed an interest I invested resources in that interest

  • I listened to them and put them in environments where they would thrive

  • I heard them, but did not listen and therefore the environment stayed the same (looking back I regret one time I did that, she knew what she needed)

This is when I really learned the challenges of parenting and how each child is different and requires uniqueness to thrive in their own right.

My son enters kindergarten and thinks he has a great teacher, but he also observed the first grade teacher and her style of teaching was not in alignment with his spirit and he clearly stated I can’t be in her class next year because she is always yelling at everyone. So another opportunity presented itself as I was seeking a resolution. He switched from public school to a public Montessori school. I loved the philosophy and was like this will be great for my daughter too, because she is a leader and can govern herself. While it was a great educational environment for my son, not so much for my daughter. I found out she did better in a more structured learning environment. Her self advocacy was I don’t have any peers I can relate to, it was not diverse enough, she needed to be around more people of color. I didn’t honor her needs because my thought was we live in Portland, OR and education is the priority your gonna need to adapt. It took me two years to listen to her and she lighten up when she got around her people. Two years in public school I clearly saw the system does not care about our kids and luckily the two teachers she had there were great. I found a diverse private school to meet both of our needs.

Formation of Thyself | 11-14 years

We remind them that we trust their judgement and they know who they are and what is important to them individually. We teach them to trust themselves and learn what that looks like to them. We teach them not to settle for less than they deserve. We teach them not to compromise their personal truths and values for others. Mr. Lane and I were on the same wavelength and collectively parented with the following as foundations for this phase:

  • Forgive myself for what I deem parental mistakes

  • Trust myself more and remember to be Spiritually guided

  • We allowed them to lead more and begin to make some decisions if we could all agree it was a good choice

  • Continually remind them they are purposed people and it’s “your responsibility to be true to yourself”

  • We worked hard to show them they can do whatever they set their minds to by spending three years developing CBI and opening the second barber college in our state

  • Sent him out of the country with People to People in this phase of his life by himself

  • Traveled out of the country as a family when our youngest was in this phase (first tropical destination and a parental goal of mine)

  • Practice patience and understanding so that we don’t kill the Spirit of the strong willed purposed little people

  • Encourage, build up and continue with exposure

  • Encourage them to get out of their comfort zone and face fears. Fears are going nowhere until we honor them with a growth mindset, fears show up in the areas we should focus on growing

Depending on the child this phase is challenging or easy. I am experiencing both. This is an important span of their life as they are surrounded by so much negative noise and distractions seeking to keep them bound by systems that are created to stifle our gifts and modified foods purposely seeking to hinder the innate power we all possess as human beings. As I learn more truth my parenting shifts to re-enforce the goal at hand, which is to raise well-rounded, independent thinkers who can thrive in their personal power within the worldly system, while not be of it.

Introduction to Adulthood | 15-20 years

All of our children have not made it to this phase yet. The more challenging child, is not afraid to advocate for what she needs or thinks she needs to thrive, this child requires more collaboration. The other two would rather heed our advice and actually use the wisdom without learning on their own terms (I know where she gets this from, lol). This phase is about practice and preparation for independent living as they will soon finish high school and enter college. Mr. Lane and I were on the same wavelength and collectively parented with the following as foundations for this phase:

  • Allow them to lead more and to make some decisions even if we knew it was a bad choice

  • Allow them to make decisions for their future when you don’t know if it’s best or not.

  • Trust their personal convictions (their internal GPS)

  • Praise them for trusting themselves, in good times or bad

  • Remind them there is always a lesson to learn, we never fail

  • Forgive myself for what I deem parental mistakes

  • Trust myself more and remember to be Spiritually guided

  • Remember to practice patience and understanding so that we don’t kill the Spirit of the strong willed purposed little people

Today, I left my first born son in AZ to attend college and study a field that captured his attention very early in his life. He listened to himself and he will be nurtured mind-body-spirit. In a new state of the art STEM building with the best dorm rooms I’ve ever seen (walk-in closet, living room and shower in his room). 😢😭🤩🥰


I share this life experience to remind you that fear is the gateway to your magnificence shining brighter than you could have ever imagined. When we live our lives allowing our internal GPS to lead us we enter the victorious space we are all designed to experience everyday of our lives.


Mrs. Lane

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