Untamed | A Lesson in Authentic Living

Updated: Jan 29

Break away from what is too small for you



Our self-image begins to form in childhood, and we subconsciously carry into adulthood much of what we thought of ourselves in those early years. The old recordings play in the background of our minds, influencing our decisions and relationships in ways we seldom confront. The “you” you came into the world with – the spirit that you carry – can be encouraged to unfold and blossom, or it can get buried by the noise.


It’s the rare individual who bucks the consensus over the formative years. The good news is that anyone can be taught to unlearn the negative, to ignore the noise, and to discover their true selves.

Our self-image begins to form in childhood, and we subconsciously carry into adulthood much of what we thought of ourselves in those early years. The old recordings play in the background of our minds, influencing our decisions and relationships in ways we seldom confront. The “you” you came into the world with – the spirit that you carry – can be encouraged to unfold and blossom, or it can get buried by the noise.


Of course, your parents play a part in shaping your self-concept. But all the blame can’t be laid at your mama’s feet, no matter what some psychologists might think. Also important are external forces such as schools, churches, friends – and the big one: Media. That includes advertisements, shows, billboards, articles, books, and in the 21st century, social media.


For example, if you get a constantly repeated message that the way you look does not fall into the “beautiful” category because you don’t see yourself reflected in the glossy magazines, it’s not hard to understand why you might start to believe you’re not beautiful. If you never hear yourself defined as fearless, brilliant, capable, unstoppable, strong, talented, adored, or indispensable, would you think you are any of these?


Conversely, if your teachers send out the message that you are not one of the smartest kids in the class, or that your future doesn’t hold as much promise as the A student sitting next to you, would you start thinking you’re dumb because you don’t process information in the same way? If you are criticized for hesitating to jump into the fray with siblings, do you start to see yourself as timid and afraid?


It’s the rare individual who bucks the consensus over the formative years. The good news is that anyone can be taught to unlearn the negative, to ignore the noise, and to discover their true selves. We can all be guided to find the strength, talent, and self-love central to each spirit. Everyone can find a way to be untamed, free to believe in the truth of the matter about ourselves.


We know this from our own personal experiences and from our continued commitment to growing in confidence and self-awareness. We’ve seen the amazing results of belief in oneself, no matter any evidence to the contrary.


Each of us can learn to nurture who we are at the core, to not follow the conditioning that has been at play since day one. A lot of adjectives can replace the inhibiting ones. Let’s try them on: Dependable. Joyous. Great. Successful. Smart. Fierce.

Believe about yourself that all your intentions and actions reflect the true you. Your values, passions, and clear visions of your success allow you to live on your own terms with no regrets.

When we are true to ourselves, our spirit and soul are free, and with freedom comes creativity, joy, gratitude, and respect.


A great example of a person who was authentic and true to himself is the late Congressman John Robert Lewis. No matter what the society around him wanted him to accept in the segregated South, he stood steadfast for what he believed in. He intuitively understood that he was valuable, and so was everyone else. He committed his life to spreading that message.

Congressman Lewis led a full and fulfilling life, and in the process, he affected millions of people to make positive changes in the ways we interact with each other.


Listen to your inner voice. Choose who you are destined to be. If you don’t, you run the risk of letting others who don’t see your full potential choose for you. Align yourself with others who believe in their own worth and are living life on their own terms.


No life is worth living falsely. BU.

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